Alpha. Barry can extrapolate the meaning there, but he'd still rather hear it from Derek.

"That means leader, right?" It's a nice thought, a matriarchy. Barry doesn't hate himself or anything, but he does hate the type of men who come in and try to take everything over. If it weren't for his affection for the man, Barry would think of Oliver this way - he's certainly stubborn enough - but at least Oliver listens to Felicity. The world would be a better place if men did more of that.

Barry comes back to himself with a sad, searching look. "But she was in the fire."